I know. It's sounds somewhat "Oh Broth--------er!" to the unaware. However,I'm learning a lot right now about why my past in the romance department was such a dud. And I thought I'd share that with you here,in case you're unattached for yet another Yule and wondering why. Well, it could be the way you treat yourself. And I'm not talking about what you've purchased lately. Nope. I'm talking about self care,because how you treat yourself is energetically what you're gonna get (or not) on a romantic level. (And this applies to friendships and family,too!)
Example 1: If you had a beloved right now,would you let them sleep on the sheets you're going to sleep on tonight? You last treated yourself to clean sheets when????
Example 2: If you had a beloved,would you make them use those super old and faded washcloths and bath towels you're using? Hmmmm??
Example 3: If you had a beloved,would you expect them to live in rooms full of disorganized clutter,expecting them to simply turn a blind eye to it and say "sure I want to share a life with you! When do I move in?"
Now more than likely you're thinking Oh no! I'd never make them do with that! And yet, we can impose those very same things on ourselves,and think nothing of it. Perhaps we were conditioned to do with less by our parents or others we were close to in growing up. I know I was. Towels were used until they were literally ragged and falling apart. It wasn't due to a lack of money,however. It was due to my parents having a poverty mindset.
It wasn't till my Dad had been gone a year I started realizing I was unconsciously doing what my parents did. I woke up to the fact the old wash cloths my Dad had gotten for a "bargain" years ago were rough,and worn out. I ordered new ones for myself that are soft and nice to look at. These are ones I would want my "beloved" to use.
In the distant past,I would go for long periods of time before changing my bed- I would certainly never let my beloved sleep on sheets that had been on the bed for more than a week or so. I started changing my bedding frequently,and it much improved the quality of my sleep,and helped put a stop to sinus problems I was having.
The secret is this: if you don't treat yourself like you're someone special,than neither is anyone else. Energetically when we give ourselves less than respectful treatment,or 2nd rate treatment,we project that energy out into the Universe and it responds on a matching frequency- which usually manifests thru people giving you 2nd rate treatment,or no treatment at all.....just passing you by as tho you don't exist.
Now to be clear,to give self care isn't to be found in blowing your budget and shopping in expensive stores with the rationale you're treating yourself well. It's in doing the things that other people will never know or notice- like treating yourself to a foot soak at home after being on your feet all day, or making sure there's fresh coffee in the morning when you get up,or making time to play ukulele every day. You get the picture!
Everytime you go to do something,ask yourself "would I be pleased to have my beloved _______?" And the blank can be from anything like "eating at my cluttered dining room table" to however it is that you treat yourself,or the conditions you surround yourself in. If you wouldn't want it for them,you don't allow it for yourself,either. Treat yourself as tho you were "your beloved" and you'll be sending a wonderful energetic signal out to the Universe to respond to in kind!